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In an interview done by the New York Times, a 14 year-old girl stated “If I was gay and someone used that word in a negative context, of course I’d be insulted. On a daily basis, you will hear the words ‘gay’ or ‘retarded’ either in the halls, outside of school, or even in your own group of friends. The same dedication and determination to provide opportunities for socialization, networking and support that spurred the creation of our organization is vital today.

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It’s wrong. We are also aware of the growing danger to the life and well-being of LGBTQIA+ people globally, particularly in the United States and other nations where democracy is threatened. You may not mean gay by ‘homosexual,’ and your aim may not be to insult the mentally disabled when you call something ‘retarded,’ but you are still insulting a group of people when you use one of those words.

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When you hear the word ‘gay,’ it is usually used as a synonym for the word ‘stupid’ or ‘lame,’ and the same goes for the word ‘retarded.’

What we don’t realize whenever we say these two words, is that we really are offending someone else, someone who has done nothing wrong. Read more.

Blind LGBT Pride International (BPI) announced today that it has officially ended its affiliation with the American Council of the Blind (ACB), effective January 1, 2025.

We are still the only global organization focused on the intersection of visual impairment and sexual orientation, gender identity and expression. We hope that the information we provide will empower you to advocate for your rights as you travel to these events. That is seriously retarded. I hear it all the time, every single day in class.

Homosexual.” The definition of the word retarded is “slow or limited in intellectual or emotional development or academic progress.” Neither of these words, however, is being used with the intent of their definition nowadays. We hear this at school every day, but how many of us actually say something about it, and stand up against the inappropriate usage of these words?

The word ‘gay’ is still the word ‘gay,’ and ‘retarded’ is still ‘retarded,’ and you are still insulting a group of people when using these words with a negative connotation.